\u0130nsano\u011flu ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7 bir yarat\u0131k. Hep akl\u0131ma \u015f\u00f6yle bir sahne gelmi\u015ftir; oturup tv izlerken Falconetti’ye, JR’a ya da Ferhunde’ye sinirlenen, homurdanan bir h\u0131rs\u0131z, katil ya da r\u00fc\u015fvet\u00e7i m\u00fcd\u00fcr… Dizilerde, filmlerde k\u00f6t\u00fcleri ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fckleri izlerken, o k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklerden nefret etmek daha kolay oluyor san\u0131r\u0131m. Ger\u00e7ek hayata d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde, filmlerde g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz o k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklerle bula\u015fma ihtimalimiz varsa e\u011fer, zannediyorum \u00e7ok say\u0131da mazeretimiz ve kendi kendimizi ikna etme sebeplerimiz oluyor. Minareyi \u00e7alan k\u0131l\u0131f\u0131na uydurur hesab\u0131yla kendimizi hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kara \u00e7\u0131kara, kimsenin g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn ya\u015f\u0131na bakmadan kuyrukta kaynak yap\u0131yor, k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 \u0131\u015f\u0131kta ge\u00e7iyoruz.<\/p>\n
“Ekmek paras\u0131”
\n“Herkes yap\u0131yor”
\n“Bir tek enayi ben miyim?”<\/p>\n
deyip deyip masum su\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, masum bahaneler uydurarak i\u015fliyoruz. \u0130nsan kendine filmlerde g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fckleri yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131ramad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, “\u015fu an k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck yap\u0131yorum” diye itiraf etti\u011fimiz anlar ya hi\u00e7 olmuyor ya da \u00e7ok nadiren ger\u00e7ekle\u015fiyor. D\u00fcr\u00fcst su\u00e7lu bulmak \u00e7ok mu zor acaba? Kendine kar\u015f\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak ya da kendine bir d\u0131\u015f bak\u0131\u015f geli\u015ftirebilmekle ilgili belki her \u015fey. Belki de \u00e7ok derinlerde kendimizi hala ana kuzusu g\u00f6r\u00fcyor ve her t\u00fcrl\u00fc ahlaki ka\u00e7ama\u011f\u0131 yapmaya lay\u0131k bir taraf\u0131m\u0131z oldu\u011funu varsay\u0131yoruz. Bununla birlikte su\u00e7 i\u015flesek de kalbimiz temiz kalabiliyor, zannediyoruz. Hapishanelerde yatan mahkumlardan ka\u00e7ta ka\u00e7\u0131, inand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir kod gere\u011fi toplumsal kodlarla \u00e7eli\u015ferek, yani i\u015fledi\u011finin su\u00e7 oldu\u011funun bilincinde acaba?<\/p>\n
“Mecbur kald\u0131m da \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fcm”
\n“T\u00f6re b\u00f6yle buyurur”
\n“A\u00e7\u0131z”<\/p>\n
B\u00fcy\u00fck su\u00e7lar i\u00e7in kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kacak muhtemel cevaplar.<\/p>\n
Hangi mazeret, hangi su\u00e7u hakl\u0131 k\u0131lar? Bu soruya narsistik egolar\u0131m\u0131zla bakarsak baya kalabal\u0131k bir liste yapmam\u0131z m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Ancak kendi kabahatlerimiz i\u00e7in ge\u00e7erli tabii ki bu, belirtmeme gerek yok. Bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n ana kuzusu ya da narsist olma hakk\u0131n\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir evren bu.<\/p>\n
Sadece su\u00e7 ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck konusunda de\u011fil, istenmeyen her davran\u0131\u015f ve duruma kendimizi lay\u0131k g\u00f6rmeyiz. (Genellikle) Herkesin kar\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u015feyler var. \u00c7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7o\u011funluk b\u00f6yle \u015feyleri sahiplenmez. Her tart\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 durumda rakiplerin sahip oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz \u00f6zellikler bunlar. \u00d6rne\u011fin iki g\u00fcruh birbirini fa\u015fistlikle su\u00e7layabilir.<\/p>\n
“Sensin fa\u015fist!”
\n“Hay\u0131r, as\u0131l fa\u015fist sensin!”<\/p>\n
Velhas\u0131l tek tek bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda hi\u00e7 k\u00f6t\u00fc adam bulam\u0131yorsunuz. “K\u00f6t\u00fcy\u00fcm ben k\u00f6t\u00fcy\u00fcm” diyen sadece Susam Soka\u011f\u0131 kuklalar\u0131! Sebebi nedir deyince ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan \u015fey ise \u015fu:<\/p>\n
Kendimizi, ya\u015fam tarz\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc, fikirlerimizi, duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 deliler gibi, en ileri a\u015fk derecesinde, u\u011frunda \u00f6lecek kadar seviyoruz. Herkes de bizi ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde sevsin ve kabul etsin istiyoruz ama bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc olmuyor!<\/p>\n
Oysa bilgelik galiba kendini de\u011fersiz, hatta hakir g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131k\u00e7a ba\u015fl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u0130nsano\u011flu ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7 bir yarat\u0131k. Hep akl\u0131ma \u015f\u00f6yle bir sahne gelmi\u015ftir; oturup tv izlerken Falconetti’ye, JR’a ya da Ferhunde’ye sinirlenen, homurdanan bir h\u0131rs\u0131z, katil ya da r\u00fc\u015fvet\u00e7i m\u00fcd\u00fcr… Dizilerde, filmlerde k\u00f6t\u00fcleri ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fckleri izlerken, o k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklerden nefret etmek daha kolay oluyor san\u0131r\u0131m. Ger\u00e7ek hayata d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde, filmlerde g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz o k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklerle bula\u015fma ihtimalimiz varsa e\u011fer, zannediyorum […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[248],"tags":[62,382,383,194],"class_list":["post-922","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cesitli","tag-ilginc","tag-kotu","tag-kotuluk","tag-toplum"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/922","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=922"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/922\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2088,"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/922\/revisions\/2088"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=922"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=922"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.gokhanyorgancigil.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=922"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}